For some weird reason this week has been a good week for stupiphany’s
What is a stupithany? you may rightly ask.
You know that moment when you have an epiphanies that is so blindingly obvious that, when you point them out, people look at you like you’re the village idiot.
Yep that’s a stupithany!
I only learnt this is what I had when my (long suffering) wife, Natasha, told me my latest earth shattering revelation was in fact so obvious that Wayne Rooney himself could have done better!
Mine usually relate to work and parenting, so I thought I’d share my latest stupithany’s with you.
VERY obvious thing that everyone knows already No 1
Health is the first wealth.
I’ve been working absurdly hard for about two months now: My daily schedule started at 5:30 AM and generally ends at 9:30 PM, with little or no break or pause, except on weekends, when I’d collapse in a stupor. I also moved countries, had one of my businesses triple it’s revenues and I’ve taken another business into America and we’ve launched Roar Local in Australia.
I know seasoned entrepreneurs will poo poo my work load and think I’m going soft and getting old (both true) but for me that’s a lot of stuff going on
If you’re a CEO or entrepreneur or Dad or whatever, you may think that by working more, you’re doing more of your job.
Untrue. Part of every leader’s job is to remain upright when necessary, prone when healthy and sane at all times.
If you don’t, your body and mind have a funny way of saying, “Cut the crap, idiot.”
For me, this moment came Tuesday, after getting up at 4am to prepare for a teleconference at 5am with my coaching and mentoring group.
At the end of the call I was so shagged I had to get back into bed…. 2 days later I emerged haggered and slightly paranoid after such an intense bout of sleeping
Verdict? Dunno. I am a big believer in your body doing what ever it takes yto get it needs met, so I’m run down but to dumb to stop, solution, knock Neil out for 2 days, for no particular reason.
Basically, my body said Enough, Neil. You want to go non-stop for weeks? Fine. But you’ll pay with 48 hours of feeling like rat shit.
Taking care of yourself is part of your job. Do it. Otherwise your body will make you.
VERY obvious thing that everyone knows already No 2
Comparing yourself to other people only leads to bad things.
I’m hyper-competitive. So are most folks who run companies, I’m sure. So I tend to work harder when I feel colleagues do the same.
Don’t do it. You’ll hear about lots of other people who apparently work incredible hours, or otherwise do amazing things by stretching their limits. I’m here to tell you, there’s always a ‘but.’
Steve Jobs worked constantly to build up Apple and Pixar. But he died tragically at a young age and alienated many around him.
Lance Armstrong won more Tours de France than anyone else in history. But it turns out he cheated the entire time.
Another marketer you know spends 3 days a week at conferences, 2 days creating incredible books and still has time for her family. But she also has $10m in venture funding and no clients.
You are not everyone else. Be very, very careful about using comparisons to drive yourself forward.
VERY obvious thing that everyone knows already No 3
What you say matters far less than what you do.
My 2 daughters will learn their behavior from me. Shudder.
I don’t ignore my family. I pick up kids from activities, teach them to read and do maths and we hang out and go to the park a lot, have ‘the talk’ with them (they flee if they can) and generally make a pest of myself.
But, if all they see is me working, then being home with them, and never taking a moment for myself, what does that teach them? Nothing good, because I’m ignoring the first two lessons.
My daughter has now started calling me daddy grump as I let me self get consumed with work to the detriment of the first 2 stupithany’s above.
So there you go, my three major aha moments this week that you’ll agree is so blindingly obvious it’s comical.
They are however important, no man or woman can lead a company without them 🙂